Sometimes you’re not stuck on them.
You’re stuck on what you thought it would become.
The plans.
The direction.
The version of the future that felt real at the time.
When that disappears, it doesn’t just feel like loss.
It feels unfinished.
Like something got cut off before it made sense.
That’s why your mind keeps going back to it.
Trying to complete something that no longer exists.
This is where a lot of comparison and overthinking starts.
It ties closely into why you compare yourself to your ex’s new partner.
Because your brain is still trying to explain what changed.